Except for the fact that you are divorced, everything remains the same. Maintaining cordial ties with your ex, their family, and friends after divorce will be exceedingly difficult if you have been married and separated. Being friends with an ex is difficult enough, but picture being friends with an ex-husband or wife! There are many factors to consider before deciding whether or not to remain friends with your ex. Personal feelings may play a role in determining how you feel about staying friends with an ex. If you feel that there is no hope of repairing your marriage, then it might be best to move on.
Emotional connections often exist between spouses even after they have decided to part ways. If you still love your former husband or wife, then remaining friends can cause a lot of pain and heartache. Consider the consequences of your actions before making a decision that will affect the rest of your life. If you decide to stay friends with an ex, do so out of respect for what happened instead of because "it's easy" or because you want to avoid conflict.
The only person who can really answer this question is you. Only you can decide if you can handle the emotional pain that comes with remaining friends with an ex-husband or ex-wife. If you aren't ready to deal with this type of pain, then perhaps now is not the time to make such a commitment.
It has less to do with your marital status and more to do with the specific situations of your ex, your partner, and yourself. Being friends with an ex might be quite normal at times. You either dated a long time ago or your relationship was never very serious, so the transition was simple. However, if you still love your partner very much or plan to marry him/her someday, then it's best to keep some distance between you.
The main reason why it's not a good idea for a married person to be friends with an ex is because this can lead to feelings of jealousy. If your partner used to date or stay friends with other people before he/she met you, then this situation can cause problems in a new relationship. It's easy for old feelings to come back into play and that's not what married people need. At least, they shouldn't get married if they still have feelings for others.
Being friends with an ex isn't going to hurt your marriage as long as both parties are aware of the situation and don't take their friendship too far. If you're not sure whether this is something that could happen with your partner, ask him/her directly. A lot of people think that just because they're no longer together that their exes no longer interest them, but this isn't true. They always will until you both agree that this relationship is over.
Being cordial and cooperative with your ex-spouse is a wonderful idea. Being friends with your ex, on the other hand, is unlikely to help you to move on with your life. While it's natural to want to put the past behind you, remaining friends with your ex is rarely a good idea. It may seem like a harmless thing to do, but it can cause lots of problems down the road.
If you are still married, being friendly or even dating your ex-wife or ex-husband is not recommended. Even if you think that you can handle it, others may not feel the same way. If your current spouse finds out about your relationship with one of their former partners, they could easily become angry with you. This would be unfair of them, since you had no part in causing the breakup of your marriage. However, even if they understand why you'd like to stay friends after the divorce, they may not feel the same way yourself.
It's also important to remember that while you may not see your ex-wife or ex-husband any longer, they remain members of your family. Your children should not know anyone in their life who is not approved by their parent. This includes their friends from before they were married, since parents are always responsible for any actions their child takes. If you have yet to separate from your spouses, then it's only natural for you to want to keep them close to you.
One reason friendships change so drastically after divorce is that friends, like some family members, aren't comfortable with sadness and hence become rejecting or chilly. They may even side with your ex, oblivious to the fact that they are polarizing and inciting strife between the two of you.
Another reason is that after years of sharing your life with someone, it can be difficult to adjust to being alone again. You're used to them knowing about your day-to-day struggles and successes, and having them support you in times of need. Divorce means losing this connection with your ex-mate.
Yet another reason is that when you marry someone, you marry their whole life, not just their body. Your ex-friend will have no interest in getting to know you again unless you or they find someone new. Also, since marriage is a decision of two people joining their lives together, it is assumed that both parties want what is best for each other. If your friend doesn't agree with your choice or isn't given a chance to voice their opinion, then they have no right to reject you afterward.
The list goes on and on; however, these are some of the most common reasons why people lose friends after divorce.
Breakups may be difficult, especially if you've become connected to an ex's family. You may have a completely normal and healthy friendship with members of your ex's family as long as you respect your ex's sentiments. If the friendship works out, you'll have even more folks to bowl with! However, if your ex wants nothing to do with you, it's best to give them their space.
It's not advisable to call or email your ex's family without their permission. They might not feel comfortable with this type of contact from you; therefore, it's best to leave them alone until they change their mind about you.
If you want to keep in touch with members of your ex's family, that's fine as long as they're okay with it. You can send Christmas cards or have dinner with their group once in a while. Just make sure you don't go over anyone's comfort level before doing so.
It is quite normal in a divorce situation or with a prior girlfriend to have to cope with an ongoing connection. I frequently hear about ex-spouses who can remain friends after a divorce. That is wonderful, but it is not always a feasible or realistic expectation, particularly for a new girlfriend or wife. An ongoing relationship with an ex-husband or wife can create problems for all parties involved.
The first issue that needs to be considered is how long should the friendship last. If this is an ongoing question in your mind, then you need to discuss it with your partner. It's important to both of you that you feel comfortable with the expected duration of the friendship. If he or she wants you to stay friends with his or her ex-wife or husband, then you should respect their wishes.
It's also important to understand that an ex-husband or wife will always have feelings toward their former spouse. This can cause problems if one person starts to take advantage of the other. For example, if your boyfriend or girlfriend knows that you are unemployed and they offer you a job, that would be taking advantage of you. They should be your friend first before anything else.
In conclusion, an ex-husband or wife can still be your friend even after you marry or date someone new. It's important to understand that these people have plans and dreams just like you do.