When a gaslighter or narcissist speaks in the third person, it appears as though he is speaking to a supporter. Gaslighters/narcissists talk with the purpose that a falsehood will be repeated so many times that it will become the reality, and that using the third person lends their words more weight. For example, if a gaslighter told you that you were "too stupid to live" or "worthless," he would say these things in a way that makes them sound objective and factual rather than subjective and biased.
The reason why narcissists/gaslighters speak in the third person is because they want to make themselves seem important even when they are not present. They also like to hear themselves talk so they do not go away for too long of a time.
Narcissists/gaslighters use the third person when discussing others because it gives the appearance that what they have to say matters even though it is not true. The more often they use this technique, the more power they gain over you. Be careful around people who abuse your trust especially if they claim to be professionals - such as therapists or lawyers. If they tell you that you're crazy or say untrue things about you behind your back, then they may be narcs/gasers themselves.
Finally, remember that everyone has a story. Nobody's story is better or worse than another's.
Narcissists are deceivers. Lying is one of those characteristics that cannot be removed from their personality. Lying is simply one of the ways they influence and control people. Because narcissists want to control everything in their life, they are capable of and inclined to lie about anything. Whether it's lying about being married when they're not, lying about having money when they don't have any, or even lying about being human, these people will always come across as deceitful.
Does this mean all narcissists lie constantly? No, because not everyone who lies does so repeatedly. Some narcissists may tell only one small lie in an effort to get something they want. For example, if someone wants attention, they might exaggerate how bad they had it as a child. This could be called a "single" lie. Others may lie only once in their lives. They may even admit to the truth later in life after getting what they wanted by making them feel guilty or punishing them for telling.
Do all narcissists deserve punishment? No. But like most other people, narcissists do not think about other people's feelings. They only care about themselves. So yes, they do deserve punishment for their actions. However, keep in mind that narcissists can easily manipulate others into doing their bidding. If you decide to file charges against them, make sure to follow proper procedure to avoid harming your case.
Exaggeration, grandiosity, and imitation Narcissists frequently feel the urge to compete with others despite the fact that they are not very unique and are also quite insecure. They will pretend, deceive, injure or exploit others, and do whatever else is necessary for personal benefit. In order to satisfy this need, they may imitate other people's behavior, attitudes, or possessions.
Narcissists tend to be envious people who crave attention and admiration. This means that they will often copy other people in an attempt to be like them or get their attention. They may copy their friend's walk, talk, mannerisms, or clothes and try to act like them so that others will notice them too. This may cause some problems between the narcissist and their imitation because sometimes they may not be able to pull off the imitation convincingly enough for them to receive the recognition they want!
In addition to copying other people, narcissists also tend to exaggerate their own abilities and traits. For example, if someone else has a good relationship with their boss then the narcissist might imagine that they could have the same kind of success with their boss if only they tried hard enough. This form of exaggeration is called "splitting" and it is used by many narcissists as a way to make themselves look better even though part of them knows that they can't emulate another person's behavior entirely without appearing fake.
People with narcissistic tendencies and other negative personality characteristics are prone to blaming others for their own poor behavior. If they are lying, they will accuse others of lying as well. If they are unkind, they will accuse others of being cruel. Narcissists feel justified in abusing others because they believe that they are superior people who deserve better treatment.
Many times, narcissists claim to be the victims of abuse. This is part of their defense mechanism against feeling guilty about their own actions. They may even go so far as to claim that they were abused by parents, siblings, friends, colleagues, or strangers. This way, they can avoid taking responsibility for their own conduct.
Narcissists enjoy seeing others suffer and will do anything to make themselves look good. Thus, they will often tell others what they want to hear to get them to like them. This can be done by accusing others of being narcs or saying things like "You know you love me." In order for this tactic to work, the narcissist must think you are stupid enough to fall for it.
If you are dealing with a narcissist, try not to take things personally. They are not worth getting angry at or trying to change. They should only be treated with compassion and understanding.
If you find a narcissist lying and confront them, you will almost certainly encounter one of the Four D's. They will deny, deflect, diminish, and/or discard you. When confronted about their actions, a narcissist can become enraged and attack you.
Narcissists have no real sense of responsibility or guilt. If they want to get something out of their system, they will abuse you, lie to you, or steal from you. In fact, that is why most narcissists end up in prison. They have no regard for other people's feelings, so there is no surprise that they would go after those who matter the most - their victims.
Narcissists are able to get away with these crimes because not only do others forgive and forget, but also because the narcissist has learned how to hide their true self. Even though they may know they are doing wrong, narcissists cannot bring themselves to admit it.
Narcissists are initially popular among their friends and coworkers because they make up entertaining stories and tell lies to give the appearance that they are knowledgeable and brilliant. They are voracious and strive to "steal the show" at parties and gatherings because they are ravenous and need attention. They may even appear to be rich or powerful as a means of attracting women.
Narcissists lack empathy and sympathy which makes them seem cold-hearted but it also attracts people who feel inadequate or insecure. They believe they deserve everything good in life and if you're lucky enough to cross their paths, you'll get swept away by their charm and charisma and think that they are wonderful people who should be admired and respected.
Once you realize that you have been fooled by a narcissist, you will want nothing to do with them. They are insecure creatures who rely on adoration from others to feel worthwhile so they will do anything to keep other people from leaving them alone.
They may even pretend to love you in order to keep you around. Narcissists are incapable of loving another person completely without expecting something in return. They are looking for admiration and affection and will do anything to get it. If you aren't paying them attention, they will act hurt or angry to get what they want.
People like this exist only in fiction movies and comic books.