Do you ever think, "Why are they treating me this way?" If you are being mistreated by someone (a stranger, a friend, or a family member), you undoubtedly want to know why. Determine what's going on by observing their behavior and seeking opinions from others. Often, the person knows why they are doing something but doesn't like to admit it.
Here are some examples of why people act toward others:
Because I am important to them: They might show you that they value you by taking time to talk with you, thanking you for things you've done, demonstrating affection through words or actions. People who care about you will never ignore or deny your existence. They will always make an effort to let you know that they love you.
Because I am like them: This is an easy one to understand. If someone behaves like or likes someone else, it is because they feel a connection with that person. They might copy something that person does or try to look like them in order to fit in. People tend to follow those they find attractive or likable.
Because I deserve it: Someone may be treating you unfairly if they are simply following your lead. For example, if you have been ignoring them, then they may respond in kind. You can't expect other people to forgive you for hurtful behaviors if you don't ask them to.
You are aware, though, that people who treat you poorly are sometimes those closest to you: coworkers, relatives, and even your spouse. Sometimes these people act like they're doing you a favor by giving you a bad time, but in reality, they are just trying to hurt you.
Other people who treat you poorly include those who use drugs or drink too much, have mental problems, or suffer from illness. Even those who claim to love you but actually hate themselves so much that they take it out on you are considered unfair treatment.
People who treat you badly may do so through words or actions. They can say insulting things about you or fail to give you credit for good ideas. They can also show their anger towards you or refuse to listen to your point of view without explanation.
In some cases, poor treatment may not be done intentionally. For example, someone who has never met you before may ask questions such as "Why did John hit James?" when told that both men work together. This person does not know any better than to question someone's ability to handle themselves in a situation, even if they mean no harm.
Nobody likes to believe that their lover is mistreating them. We don't always recognize when we're being treated poorly until it's far too late. People around us, on the other hand, frequently observe what's going on. You may discover that your friends and relatives have attempted to address this topic with you. If they've done so in a respectful way, then they'll have provided you with some helpful advice.
If you want to know whether or not your partner is treating you unfairly, then listen to what others have to say about them. If everyone you know thinks that your partner is behaving inappropriately, then there's a good chance that something is wrong. Your partner should appreciate you when you show affection and act like yourself, not just when you give in to them demands.
If you suspect that you're not being treated fairly, try to understand where your partner is coming from before you react. It's easy to think that they shouldn't be given certain rights or privileges if they've done something wrong, but that doesn't make sense if they didn't cause the problem in the first place. For example, if your partner ignores your wishes and moves into another house with other people after breaking up with you, then you'd probably feel cheated out of your right to free choice. However, if they moved into the new place without any arguments or discussions, then you should respect their decision.
Continue reading for advice on how to deal with this sort of conduct.
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