Low self-esteem has a detrimental impact on communication since it increases the dread of interacting with others (McCroskey, Richmond, Daly, & Falcione, 1977). Your normal interactions with friends will suffer as a result of your lack of communication skills, and social gatherings will become a nightmare. Even if you are not shy or socially awkward, low self-esteem can still have an adverse effect on communication because you will feel uncomfortable talking in front of others.
The more you fear something, the less likely you are to do it. So by fearing communicating about your feelings, you will never get around to doing it. If you believe that no one will like you or want to hear from you, then asking for help when you need it will seem like too great a risk.
In addition, people with low self-esteem find it difficult to judge how they are coming across so they will often say things that don't reflect how they really feel. They will also be prone to over-sharing information about themselves which can lead to them upsetting others by saying things that they later regret.
Self-esteem has a huge impact on how we interact with others. If you feel good about yourself, you will feel comfortable sharing your thoughts and opinions with others. You will also have enough confidence to ask for what you need from them. On the other hand, if you feel bad about yourself, most of these behaviors will go out the window.
Anxiety, tension, loneliness, and an increased risk of depression are all consequences of poor self-esteem. Friendships and romantic relationships suffer as a result of this. It has a significant negative impact on academic and occupational performance. This increases one's susceptibility to drug and alcohol misuse. Self-destructive behaviors such as suicide attempts are also common among people with low self-esteem.
Negatively affecting factors include:
Failure experiences such as falling short in exams or jobs, being rejected by others, etc.
Critical voices inside our head that measure how we're doing compared to other people
Factors outside of our control such as natural disasters, illness, or unemployment
Self-doubt and feelings of inadequacy
The importance we place on ourselves
Low confidence levels
Highly sensitive people who find slight insults extremely painful and difficult to deal with
People with low self-esteem often have experienced one or more adverse events in their lives which have hurt their feelings badly. These may include:
Physical injury or illness of someone close to them
Emotional abuse from parents or caregivers
As a result, the lower your self-esteem, the more difficult communicating with others becomes, creating a vicious feedback cycle that erodes your self-esteem even further. As your self-esteem grows, so will your confidence and communication skills. The more you know yourself and have faith in your abilities, the better able you are to communicate with others.
That said, there are some things you can do to improve your self-esteem and therefore your ability to communicate effectively:
The first thing you need to understand is that how you feel about yourself is based on how others feel about you. If many people don't think highly of you, then you'll likely also not think highly of yourself. But once you learn how to communicate effectively with others, your self-esteem will grow along with it.
But how can that be? Why would learning how to communicate effectively make you feel better about yourself? Here's what happens when you learn how to communicate effectively: You start off by learning basic principles like good listening skills and how to ask open-ended questions. This helps you develop deeper relationships with others, which then leads to you wanting to communicate more deeply and honestly with them.
People who have poor self-esteem have difficulty communicating with people because they are more concerned with what the person they are speaking with thinks of them rather than being free to express anything they want and be themselves. They also may avoid certain types of conversations because they do not feel comfortable talking about certain subjects or being open about how they feel.
Those that have high self-esteem, on the other hand, are not worried about what others think of them so they are more likely to take part in discussions and share their views freely. They also have no problem talking about personal things because they know that they can be honest and trustworth without making people uncomfortable.
If you want to improve your ability to communicate brainlessly, work on boosting up your own confidence first. It will go a long way towards helping you get over yourself and talk more freely.
Low self-esteem can also have an impact on how you interact with others. Each friendship has a certain rhythm in terms of how quickly it evolves. Some individuals click right away, while others take a little longer. If you have poor self-esteem, you may hurry the pace of a friendship and scare your new acquaintance away.
Also, if someone makes you feel bad about yourself, then it's natural to want to avoid them. You might cut them out of your life completely or just give into your feelings and be cold to them. Either way, this behavior is telling them that you don't think much of yourself and that's not good for your friendships.
Finally, low self-esteem can lead to depression. Depression can make you feel like quitting everything that you've been doing up until now. With no motivation whatsoever, you won't put yourself out there anymore and you'll stop trying to improve your relationship with yourself and others. This is not only bad for your friendships, but it's also going to cause more problems for you in general. It's best to get some help from someone who knows about psychology so they can guide you through these difficult times.
What factors might contribute to poor self-esteem?
Low self-esteem may have a detrimental impact on almost every aspect of your life, including your relationships, employment, and health. However, you may enhance your self-esteem by following the advice of specific forms of mental health therapy. Consider the following steps, which are based on cognitive behavioral therapy.
1. Analyze the situation. What is the thought pattern behind my low opinion of myself? Make a list of negative thoughts about yourself. Are these thoughts true? If not, how can I change them?
2. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones. Instead of thinking only negative things about yourself, think also of your good qualities. Develop an appreciation for who you are.
3. Change behavior to match your new attitude. Do something each day that shows someone else that you believe in yourself.
4. Keep working at it. Once you start seeing improvements in your self-esteem, work hard to keep it up. Don't become complacent.
5. Look to the future. Expect success in your efforts if you look forward to maintaining improved levels of self-esteem.
Healing low self-esteem is not an easy task. It requires commitment and effort from you. But once you begin taking action, it's possible to grow your self-esteem back into a healthy level.