If you want to encourage someone to do something, have them do it while doing something else they enjoy. Every time they do something you desire, do something specific (like touching them somewhere or making a specific sound). Then do that particular action, and they'll remember to perform the appropriate behavior.
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Here are some pointers to consider as you strive to treat others with respect.
Increase your tolerance for frustration. You have no control over the other person's actions, but you can choose how to react and whether or not to engage them. One method is to increase your frustration tolerance by confronting erroneous assumptions that may cause you to get upset, irritated, or lose your cool. For example, if you believe that someone is treating you unfairly because of your race, then it's important that you don't respond in kind by acting racistly toward them. Instead, focus on what you can control: Your own behavior. If they make you feel bad about yourself or your character, then stop engaging with them.
Learn how to resolve conflicts effectively. Conflicts are inevitable; there will always be differences of opinion between people. However, if you don't learn how to resolve conflicts effectively, they can lead to arguments, hurt feelings, and even violence. Therefore, it is important that you learn how to communicate your opinions without being argumentative or insulting. Doing so will help you come to an agreement that you both can live with, rather than continuing down a path of destruction.
Try not to take things personally. It's easy to get caught up in the moment when having a disagreement with another person, but keeping in mind that they are only doing their best to express themselves freely is important. Even if you think that something they say is wrong, remember that they are entitled to their own views, just as you are entitled to yours.