Kiri discusses her mourning after the death of a parent, as well as some of the lessons she's learned along the journey. It's difficult to put into words how it feels to lose a parent, but the important thing to remember is that there is no conventional way to react.
There are many ways to grieve. You should do what you need to feel better about your loss. However, you shouldn't deny yourself of pleasures in order to mourn. Enjoy life while you can, because someday you may not be able to.
Losing a parent is one of the hardest things you will ever go through in your life. But don't forget to live your life to the fullest while you can.
The Grief of Parental Loss Is Complicated; Here's How to Begin Navigating It.
This isn't to suggest that individuals don't feel pain when they lose a parent they didn't feel close to, get along with, or know well; in fact, that loss may be felt pretty intensely. But unless they were very young when their parent died, most people have others they can turn to for support during this time.
Parents play an important role in helping us cope with grief. When they die, we lose not only them but also any chance we had of getting advice about how to live a full life. However, because parents tend to take care of other people's needs before their own, they usually leave behind many friends who are willing to help out after they die.
People may wonder what happens to grief after a parent dies. Does it go away once you stop thinking about them every day? No, it doesn't disappear completely, but it does become less painful over time. Grief is a normal part of losing someone you love and it will never go away entirely. The more you do things that make you happy, the less you'll feel like crying all the time.
Grief is insane, with an element of surprise and the continual knowing that no matter what you do, that person is gone, never to return, never to return. Losing a mother is like to being on a ship that has lost its ballast and is now at the mercy of the deepest ocean and everything it contains. It's not the same thing at all.
Losing a mother is like sinking into deep water, unable to reach the surface; grief is like standing in shallow water, able to swim out far enough to find solid ground. Grief is a feeling, while loss is a fact. Grief goes away over time while loss remains forever.
Grief is natural; it is healthy to feel pain for someone you loved who has died. Loss is inevitable; everyone loses those they love. Grieve your loss, but don't stay submerged; come up for air from time to time so you don't die of suffocation.
Don't be shocked if the youngster acts as if the loved one is still alive or that "Mommy" will return. Young youngsters may act as though they haven't "heard" anything you've said. For young children, it takes many specific moments of sorrowful clarity for the truth of the loss to set in. When this moment comes, it's important to let them know that their mother or father has died.
Younger children may need some help understanding what has happened. They may want to know why their favorite person isn't around any more. They may ask questions about where people go when they die. Help them understand as best you can and don't hesitate to get professional help if needed.
As children grow older, they should be able to cope with their loss better. However, they might still have trouble accepting that their loved one is gone forever. Try not to force the issue by saying things like "Mommy will never leave you again" or "Daddy will always watch over you." This only adds pain to an already difficult time.
Children lose parents at different times during their development. If you're looking at a small child, they probably won't be able to tell you how their parent died. But by school-age, most children are able to explain exactly what had happened. You might also see changes in behavior such as withdrawing from friends or becoming overly dependent on adults. These are all normal reactions to losing a loved one.
The death of a parent is one of the most painful and universal human experiences. If a person has never experienced the death of a parent or mother, they will most likely do so in the future. The death of a parent is unavoidable, but it doesn't make it any simpler to accept or comprehend.
When a parent dies, we lose not only their physical presence but also their guidance, encouragement, and support. We are all different, but we share many common feelings upon losing a parent: grief, sadness, disappointment, loneliness, fear, relief, happiness. These are natural reactions to experiencing loss, and everyone feels them to some degree. It is important to recognize these emotions because denying or suppressing them can lead to more serious problems such as depression.
People react to the death of a parent in many ways. Some try to avoid thinking about it, while others seek out support from family and friends. Most people struggle with grief for some time after the loss, but some move on quickly while others may take longer. No matter what reaction you have or what stage you're at, it's normal to feel these things.
The death of a parent affects every part of your life. You will experience loss of income since there is now no one to help you pay the bills, and you will need to find new roles for yourself within the family structure.
Grieving the death of an adult child is going to be a long and winding road. You may feel guilty or wonder if enough was done to assist your child. You may be enraged by the unfairness of your child's death. Be prepared for emotional ups and downs. Grief has no set time line - it can stay with you forever.
Childhood deaths can leave a huge hole in our lives, but they don't have to destroy us. If you are grieving the loss of an adult child, remember that you are not alone. There are many others who have been through this experience, and they can help you get through it.
Start by telling someone about your loss. It doesn't matter what kind of relationship you had with your child - telling someone will help release some of your feelings. You could call a friend or family member, or attend a memorial service for the person who died.
As you heal from your loss, make sure you take care of yourself. This might mean not trying to do everything for others (including cleaning your house) or taking time off work.
It is normal to feel different without your child. They used to be one of you, now they aren't. But people who didn't know you before your child died may see you as unable to cope with their death.