OnePoll has collaborated with Evite to release a comprehensive research that examines the deep social dynamics of Americans in 2019. A survey of 2,000 individuals in the United States found that many people struggle to make deep friendships, owing to introversion and a dislike of the social bar scene. It is estimated that on average, Americans have between two and three close friends.
These numbers are interesting because they show that we are all looking for connections with other people. Some people prefer to live alone, while others cannot survive too long without someone they can talk to about their problems. However, despite these differences, most of us want to be included by our friends and enjoy their company. We like to know what matters to them, and they like to know what matters to us.
In conclusion, the average American has between two and three close friends. These friends are important for our emotional health and help us get through the daily challenges of life. Without them, we would be left all alone, which some people find uncomfortable or even dangerous.
This study confirms a slew of previous findings and comments (including our own) on Americans' growing isolation. In light of this seeming loneliness pandemic, Barna has spent years researching the function of friendships and how Americans of all demographics make, stay, and identify with friends. Their latest book, Friends: The Most Important Social Network, examines why we have so many bad relationships but so few good ones.
Here are some of the main reasons given for the low number of friends:
Americans are working more than ever before and spending less time with friends. Technology has changed the way we communicate, allowing us to stay connected even when we're not in the same room. This has allowed us to avoid seeing some people but not others. We still need time alone so that we can decompress but we don't have any real solitude due to the isolating effects of technology.
Americans are living longer but focusing less on friendship. As we live longer, we want to make sure we spend our time with people who will help us be happy and successful in what remains of our lives. This means focusing on having meaningful relationships with our family and close friends rather than just having many acquaintances.
According to the study, we gain from "having a sense of belonging inside one's social network," which may be accomplished with any number of friends. The optimal number is three to five, although it is possible to live your greatest life with less (or more) than that.
Having many friends is beneficial because it provides us with a wide range of experiences and knowledge about people and society. The more friends you have, the larger your social circle will be. Your friends can be anyone - work colleagues, school peers, family members, or people you just happen to meet at a party or event - as long as they share your interest in each other.
However, having too many friends can be difficult because you don't always know what to talk about, and sometimes you might even start feeling a little bit jealous of some of them. Also, having so many connections with people makes it harder to get close to others.
So, the answer is: the optimal number of friends is three to five.
When you have too few friends, you'll feel alone and disconnected from the world around you. When you have too many friends, you might not be able to give everyone you're connected to enough attention.
In conclusion, the optimal number of friends is between three and five.
The typical American has three lifelong friends, five individuals they like and would spend time with one-on-one, and eight people they like but do not spend time with one-on-one or seek out. Most people have maintained friendships with persons they met when they were younger. These are known as early relationships or primary relationships.
After initial contact with a potential friend, most people decide within the first few days to weeks if they want to keep in touch. If you don't, that's fine; there's no right or wrong way to live your life. But be careful about excluding people from your life too quickly. Sometimes we need some time away from a friend to realize how much we depend on them. When you exclude someone from your life, you lose a part of yourself. You become less than you were before you made the exclusion.
In addition to early relationships, most adults maintain several other types of connections with people they know only slightly or not at all. These include neighbors, co-workers, customers, and members of various organizations such as clubs or churches.
Most people say that they wish they could make more new friends as they get older. The reason is because they think that if they add more old friends to the mix, they will still be friends with everyone they used to hang out with. This isn't true. Only close friends remain close friends even after years go by.