In whatever setting, a trustworthy individual will exhibit essentially the same behavior and language. They have the self-control to keep their character and accomplish what they say they will do, even when they are tempted to back down. They will not put on multiple masks or appear to be someone they are not only to impress others. Finally, they will act in accordance with what is right rather than what might benefit them most currently.
Trust is an important part of any relationship, but especially so with those who have authority over you. Trust is how people get ahead - whether at work, at school, or in society generally. It is therefore vital that you learn to trust those who help guide and care for you.
Generally speaking, if someone is trustworthy, then there is a good chance that you can trust them. However, this is not always the case. For example, someone who has been very kind to you up until now may seem like they could be trusted, but if they suddenly start making decisions without considering your feelings, then they are not really trustworthy. You should also remember not to trust someone just because they are new to you; give everyone time to prove themselves trustworthy.
The most effective way to determine whether or not you can trust someone is by looking at their actions. If they have done something worthy of trust, then there is no need to worry about it. It is only if they have behaved treacherously that you would want to take precautions.
As previously said, depending on the scenario, people might exhibit various aspects of their personality. A person who is reliable and trustworthy is more likely to exhibit consistent conduct than someone who has anything to conceal. You'll notice a pattern if you've ever watched one of those "border control" TV shows. They often start with an agent interviewing someone who claims to be traveling to another country. The agent asks questions like, "What makes you think that you should be allowed into the United States?" and "Have you ever been arrested or convicted of a crime?" Based on the answers, the agent decides whether to let the person enter America.
Here are some other signs that someone is trustworthy:
They show up on time for appointments (unless you're going to be late for something else).
They return calls or emails promptly.
They don't waste your time by emailing links to websites that they want you to visit or by asking you to look at pages that contain personal information such as job applications or credit reports.
They don't share your personal information without your permission.
They work cleanly kept rooms.
They pay their bills on time.
They return books, movies, and other items that were entrusted to them.
They have a good reputation in their community.
People who are trustworthy are truthful. They connect their words and sentiments to their actions and thinking. They don't think one thing and then say another. Trustworthy people attempt to keep their colleagues honest via communication and constructive conversation, in addition to being honest with themselves.
It's hard to trust someone who lies to you. Someone who breaks promises will surprise you when you need them the most. It's not that these things happen all the time but when they do it is difficult to know what to believe or expect next. Lying is telling a truth one way when you mean it another way. This type of behavior cannot be trusted.
It's easy to trust someone who tells you the truth even if it is bad news. They're not afraid to show their feelings and won't hide important information from you. They'll let you know when they make a mistake or do something wrong. You can count on them to have your back when you need them the most.
Who would you want as a friend? Someone who tells you the truth even if it's not pleasant to hear. Or someone who hides the bad news and only tells you positive things? Think about it.
People that are trustworthy are consistent in both what they say and what they do. They are the same at work, at home, and everywhere else—they don't act different. People who are trustworthy are dependable, responsible, accountable, and resourceful. "Consistency builds trust."
There are three things that break down trust: deception, separation, and inconsistency.
Deception is when someone does something wrong with the intention of getting away with it. This includes telling lies or cheating in order to get an advantage. Deceivers try to take unfair advantages of others for their own personal gain. "Trust no one!"
Separation is when someone breaks your trust by acting independently from you. For example, if I hire you and then don't see you for several months while you work on other projects, that's separation. When you separate from me, you leave me alone out of fear or respect. Fear is when you separate because you think something bad will happen if you don't. Respect is when you separate because I believe you are capable of taking care of yourself.
Inconsistency is when someone acts differently under different circumstances. For example, if I ask you to do something and then change my mind, that's inconsistency. Inconsistents can't be trusted because they won't keep their promises.
You must be able to put your faith in this person as a friend, lover, and partner.
Trusting people may entail making probabilistic predictions about how they will behave, but most individuals trust others without having any grasp of probability or making precise forecasts about their conduct.
When we have difficulty trusting someone, we frequently observe what he or she does and with whom he or she interacts. We become territorial and feel threatened by everyone, even if their sights are just on ourselves. Allowing someone free rein with complete faith is what trust entails. When we cannot trust someone, we tend to be very careful about giving him or her our loyalty or our friendship.
The problem with not trusting someone is that it creates a world of pain for both the giver and the receiver. If I can't trust you, then I won't give my love to you. If you can't trust me, then you won't find joy and happiness with me. Not allowing yourself to trust someone means that you are always in fear, which prevents you from living your life to the fullest extent possible.
The first step toward trusting someone again is to realize that you are wrong. Even if they have done something terrible, unless they come back into your life claiming innocence, you have every right to distrust them. The only way you will be able to move forward is by admitting that you were wrong to mistrust them in the first place.
After you have admitted that you were wrong, the next step is to make sure that nothing bad ever happens again. If you have trouble trusting someone, then keep an eye on him or her. Make sure that they aren't trying to hurt you.