Even if you haven't done anything wrong, you may feel strange, picked on, foolish, unattractive, or useless. You may feel unwell or as though you want to weep. It might also make you feel uneasy or concerned. Embarrassment might be a transitory sensation that isn't a huge concern, or it can be an overwhelming feeling that is difficult to deal with. In either case, embarrassment is a feeling.
Embarrassment is a feeling that occurs when someone else perceives something about you that you think should not be visible. This could be your appearance, behavior, or attributes such as poor handwriting or bad table manners.
Sometimes people might tease you or act in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable. They might do this because they find it amusing, or it could be their way of trying to bring you down to their own level. Either way, if you feel embarrassed by their actions, then yes, you are feeling a feeling.
Embarrassment can be intense or mild. It depends on how much attention has been drawn to your situation. If everyone you know is staring at you, laughing at you, or telling others about the incident, then you are experiencing a very strong form of embarrassment. On the other hand, if no one is paying any attention to you, then your embarrassment is merely moderate.
People often say that they "feel humiliated" or "feel ashamed". These are two different things entirely.
Being ashamed may be a distressing feeling. Being ashamed can be hard work!
Shame is an uncomfortable feeling that arises when we think someone else will judge us or find us unacceptable. It can occur when:
We think others dislike or distrust us.
We fear the reactions of those close to us.
We worry what other people think of us.
Being shamed can be even more painful if we believe the person who is shaming us doesn't respect us enough to give us a real reason for their reaction. When this happens we call it "public shaming" and it can have even more serious consequences than private shaming. With public shaming, people use their positions or access to influence others to deny us recognition or support us in our shame. This can lead to isolation, depression, and self-harm. Public shaming can happen in many forms including social media, gossip, and bullying.
People often shame others for one of three reasons: to justify their own actions, to receive attention, or because they feel powerless against another person.
Embarrassment is one of the self-conscious emotions, and it gets along well with guilt, shame, and pride. Because shame occurs in connection to other people, it is a public feeling that causes you to feel exposed, uneasy, and filled with guilt for whatever you have done wrong. Pride goes hand in hand with embarrassment because they both involve seeing yourself through other people's eyes and knowing that you have done something worthy of respect or admiration.
Shame is a painful emotion that involves feelings of humiliation, guilt, and exposure. It usually arises when someone else judges you to be guilty of a crime or wrongdoing. Shame can also arise from feelings of inferiority due to physical or mental abilities, such as when you are born with a facial deformity or are mentally impaired. Finally, societal norms that place restrictions on what conduct is acceptable cause many people to feel ashamed of themselves for not doing what others think they should.
People often confuse shame with guilt, but they are two very different emotions. With shame, you feel humiliated about yourself and know that others see you as bad or unworthy; with guilt, you feel bad about something you have done and want to correct your behavior. Trying to hide evidence of your crime will not make the feeling go away; it will only make you look even more guilty. A good understanding of shame and guilt will help you understand why people act the way they do.