You will almost certainly endure the loss of at least one grandmother throughout your lifetime, which may bring severe anguish and heartache. Many people find that their grandmothers were the most important person in their lives, and losing them really hurts. However, according to statistics, most people who suffer from grief do so within the first year after the loss. After the initial mourning period is over, you should begin to recover from the loss and move on with your life.
If you are being cared for by a surviving relative, they may require time to process the loss and might not be able to pay attention to others during this period. Try not to push them to talk about their feelings right now. Give them time to grieve in their own way.
Even though grandparents often come before parents on their children's lists, it is not unusual for them to die before their grandchildren. If you want to honor your deceased loved ones, create reminders of their lives through photos and personal mementos.
It is natural to experience sadness upon learning that a loved one has died. Although it may feel like an insurmountable pain, you can still celebrate their life even if you are suffering greatly.
This might be your first encounter with death. On average, grandparents and grandchildren are separated by 47 years. With such a large age gap, many people suffer the death of at least one of their grandparents while they are children or young adults, and for many, this is their first encounter with bereavement.
The oldest people in the world were not necessarily the strongest nor the healthiest. They made it to such an advanced age because of genetic gifts or due to past generations' lack of knowledge on how to prevent disease. Even though modern medicine has come a long way, we still do not know exactly what causes certain diseases to develop early in life and before the age of 50; however, they are out there.
For example, an early death is quite common among people who have been diagnosed with HIV/AIDS. In fact, according to the CDC, almost 80% of those with the virus will die before reaching their 40th birthday. The same percentage of people who have never been diagnosed with the virus but whose immune systems are compromised due to cancer treatments or other reasons can expect to die before reaching that age.
There are also factors beyond our control that can cause us to lose people we love early. For example, a study conducted by the World Health Organization found that people who migrate overseas tend to live longer than those who stay put.
Many members of your family are typically severely affected by the passing of a grandparent. Depending on the circumstances, you may feel compelled to put the needs of others in your family ahead of your own sorrow and well-being. "Grief split is made lighter," as the saying goes. If you are fortunate enough to have other grandparents or other relatives who can provide support during this difficult time, take advantage of their generosity.
If not, there are still ways you can cope with loss. Seeking out help from friends or family who have been through similar experiences is extremely important. You don't need to deal with the pain of losing a loved one all alone.
In addition to talking with others, it's also important that you maintain physical activity. Exercise helps your body process its feelings of sadness and grief. It also increases your energy levels so you don't feel like sleeping all the time.
Finally, make sure you give yourself time to mourn the loss of your loved one. Grieving is an emotional process that may have different stages for each person. Don't expect to feel happy all the time after someone you love has died.
However, you shouldn't feel guilty if you can't manage your emotions right now. Your family needs you to be strong. And even though grief may cause you pain, it doesn't mean that you're weak if you decide to seek help from others.