The solution is simple: if you believe they will sleep well, if both siblings agree, and if the entire family can get some rest, go for it. Siblings sharing a room, according to Elizabeth Pantley, author of the No-Cry Sleep Solution book, might really be advantageous to their relationship. "It's normal for siblings to share a room," she says. "This helps them learn how to trust and communicate with one another."
But there are cases where this isn't ideal. If one sibling is prone to nightmares or insomnia, they should not be forced to share a bed with their brother or sister. Additionally, if one child is older than the other, it may be difficult for them to understand why they can't stay up later.
Finally, if one child has a medical condition that requires them to keep a close eye on overnight breathing difficulties or seizures, then they should not be forced to share a room with their sibling.
Overall, if parents believe that sleeping together by itself will help the sibling relationship, we have no reason to say no. But if there are other factors at play (such as children being forced to share a room because there's no other option available), then that would be cause for concern.
Sharing a bed provides some siblings with a sense of security and helps them bond with one another. However, it can also cause problems if one or more siblings are prone to night terrors or other disorders that cause them to act out during their dreams.
Sharing a bed should not be an option unless all parties involved understand what it means to each individual child. Some children may feel insecure about their space being shared while others might wake up too often due to nightmares. If this issue arises, discuss different solutions with your child's doctor before making any changes to their treatment plan.
While there is no right or wrong answer when it comes to whether siblings should share a room (if their families have the space), James Crist, a licensed clinical psychologist and co-author of "Siblings: You're Stuck With Each Other, So Stick Together," stated that it is a relatively new phenomenon that children have separate habitations. He noted that once parents started keeping rooms for each child this norm became established.
Crist went on to say that it is not advisable for siblings to share a room because they will be forced to compete with one another for attention and resources. This will only lead to conflict between them; therefore, separating them is best for their relationship.
It is also important to note that not all siblings get along well together. Some siblings are more similar than others—they tend to get stuck with each other due to birth order. If you have younger or older siblings, you know what I mean! They may fight over who gets to sleep in the middle or which bed they can't sleep in until their brother or sister falls asleep next to them.
Other factors such as gender and temperament play a role in how well children who are siblings will get along. For example, if one child is more active and playful than the other, they will need more space to run around in.
Children's needs should always come first, before family traditions or habits.
Make a strategy ahead of time to keep your siblings occupied. You may have a younger sibling or sister who wants to stay out with you during your sleepover, but you may want to spend your time with your pals and do your own thing. If this is the case, you should talk to your sibling ahead of time about allowing you to spend time with your pals. They might be willing to do this if there are no other kids around to play with. Your parent(s) may also want to talk to your siblings about their sleeping arrangements so everyone knows what's expected.
Here are some ideas for keeping your siblings busy:
Play truth or dare. Truth or dare is always a fun game to play during a sleepover. See which truths or dares your siblings will accept. Dare them to do something crazy, like jumping off the third floor of the building into a bag of marshmallows. Or tell them a secret about yourself. You'll be surprised at how many secrets people admit to us that they never would've imagined themselves saying out loud before.
Do a movie marathon. Put in all your favorite movies and watch one after another until they're finished. This idea works best if you have several rooms where you can put away your video games and watch films.
Play spin the bottle. This game is usually done with friends but can be played by any number of people. The first person goes up to the last person and spins a bottle.