If you have the ability to self-reflect on this topic, you are probably not narcissistic. Narcissists typically don't mind being labeled narcissistic because they believe they are entitled to more than the rest of the world. They may even see their label as a compliment because it means they're special. However, they often suffer from a lack of self-esteem and feel inadequate unless they are performing or have something to show for themselves.
Narcissists tend to focus on their own needs and desires above everyone else's. They may appear to care about others, but that is just an illusion created by them to get what they want. They are always looking out for number one and will go to great lengths to achieve this goal. They may cheat on their partners, abuse their children, steal from others—whatever it takes to make them happy.
This is not to say that all people with narcissistic traits are bad people. Many very good people have been diagnosed with this condition. However, due to its negative effects on others, it's important to identify narcissists so that they can receive the treatment they need.
Narcissists come in many forms - from the obvious celebrity narcissists to the less visible everyday ones. They may be politicians, business owners, teachers, parents—you name it!
Narcissists are self-centered people who act and think as though the world revolves around them. They can be difficult to work with, yet altruists (selfless people) may be the finest people for the task. Narcissists are often leaders because they are able to motivate others to follow them.
Selflessness is not always beneficial to individuals or groups. Many times, it is more effective when pursued by others. However, some narcissists do choose to place other people's needs before their own. These people may be ideal leaders or employees if you can find them.
Narcissists tend to be inflexible about changing circumstances. This could be an advantage or disadvantage, depending on how you view things. If you ask a narcistic person to help you out with something that they feel is too far beyond their ability, they might just walk away from you. On the other hand, a narcissistic person could also be the best person in the world at what they do, so don't judge them by their limitations.
In conclusion, narcissists cannot be classified as good or bad. However, they do have traits that make them easier or harder to work with. If you need someone to lead you into a new situation or project, then a narcissist is probably the wrong choice for you.
According to the Mayo Clinic, not all indications of narcissism are visible, and I would think that many people exhibit narcissistic features without being a full-fledged narcissist or having been diagnosed with a narcissistic personality disorder. However, if you suspect that you may have some narcissistic tendencies, it's important to understand what this means before moving forward with treatment.
Here are some indicators that you might be a narcissist:
You feel special because others seem to admire you. Perhaps you used to model your behavior after a famous person (such as Donald Trump) or celebrity (such as Kim Kardashian), or you believe that God has chosen you for a special mission in life.
You need constant attention and admiration from others in order to feel valuable. If someone ignores you, walks by you, or treats you like anyone else, you feel rejected and invalidated.
You lack empathy and compassion for others. You find it difficult to empathize with others' feelings and problems because they never seem significant or urgent to you. You also tend to be oblivious to other people's pain and suffering unless it affects you directly.
You're often envious of others who get more attention from their friends, lovers, or family members.
In truth, some narcissists are extremely emotional, needy, and cruel, and they present with a wide range of "behaviors" or "symptoms." These narcissists do not appear narcissistic to me. They look to be caring, empathetic, and even selfless. However, they expect everyone around them to cater to their needs without fail.
Narcissists are aware that they are attractive and likeable, so they use this to their advantage by being giving and loving when no one is looking. When you care for them, they feel appreciated and guilty for thinking badly of you. This makes them cling even more tightly to you because they need the attention and love you can give them only if you're close by.
However, when it comes time to return the favor or pay back the favoritism they've received, they quickly withdraw their support because they don't want to hurt your feelings or make you question your value as a person. This is why relationships with narcissists are always temporary - because if they didn't completely depend on you for happiness then they wouldn't get what they want from you.
Narcissists are often described as selfish, but this isn't true. Narcissists are actually quite generous when you consider the circumstances. For example, if someone else was going through what they do then they would need to rely heavily on others for support.