"Emotional impediments" * Emotional barriers are mental hurdles that prevent you from freely conveying your ideas and feelings to others. They keep you from being yourself and live your life fully. Individuals who have emotional walls are typically reserved, cautious, and insecure. They may even appear cold or distant at first glance.
The word "barrier" here is used in its most basic sense: something that prevents something from happening or entering. Thus, an emotional barrier is anything that prevents you from feeling free to express yourself emotionally - either through actions or words.
People build emotional walls to protect themselves from pain. They do this by avoiding or denying certain emotions and feelings. For example, if you have a history of abuse as I did, you might unconsciously build up defenses by becoming aloof or appearing disinterested when people get too close to you. This is done so you don't have to feel their love or concern for you.
You can think of emotional walls as fences you put up to keep out danger. Just like a physical fence, emotional fencing keeps strangers away from your personal space. It also helps you define what you allow into your heart and mind. However, unlike physical fences, emotional walls can be very hard to see because they're between you and everyone else.
As with any habit, breaking down an emotional wall requires focus and commitment.
Emotional barriers are invisible walls or obstacles that form between you and your spouse when you maintain your guard and are not entirely open in the relationship. These obstacles might be established inadvertently or purposefully. They can prevent you from seeing your spouse clearly or give him or her permission to believe or do things that would otherwise be unacceptable.
An emotional barrier can exist because of fear. If one of you is afraid that if you opened up then your spouse would leave or that something bad would happen, this is an example of an emotional barrier.
Fear can also cause partners to act out violently toward each other. If one person is afraid that if they showed their feelings that they would lose control and do something they would later regret, this is also an example of an emotional barrier. In cases like these, a therapist could help you work through your issues so that they don't keep you from forming a healthy relationship.
An emotional barrier can also be caused by anger. If one person is angry at their spouse for something they did years ago and cannot let it go, this is an example of an emotional barrier. In this case, counseling could help them deal with their past hurtful actions so that they don't hold back their true feelings in the future.
Finally, an emotional barrier can be brought on by guilt.
Emotional communication hurdles are typically caused by a lack of emotional awareness or control, also known as emotional intelligence. We can interact more effectively with people in the business and in our daily life if we understand our inner feelings better. Therefore, the ability to recognize one's own emotions and those of others is important for clear and effective communication.
Lack of emotional awareness means not being aware of your own feelings or those of others. It can cause you to misinterpret other people's actions as well as engage in self-defeating behaviors such as anger management problems or substance abuse.
If you do not know what you are feeling, it is difficult to communicate your needs and desires. You cannot accurately judge how others are feeling or whether what they are saying is right for you. Misunderstandings may occur because of differences in opinion about how to deal with a problem or disagreement over an issue. Feelings of love or hate may be hidden behind a smile or handshake. These things matter to others but not to you if you are unaware of them. Unless you are able to talk about your feelings, no one else will know how you are really doing emotionally.
Control of one's emotions is another aspect of emotional intelligence that is essential for clear and effective communication.
Psychological obstacles are caused by human emotional qualities and mental limits. These obstacles cause forgetfulness, anxiety about communicating one's views to others, enthusiasm, and emotional instability, all of which contribute to an overwhelming number of communication issues.
The seven main psychological barriers to clear communication are:
1. Fear of conflict - people fear losing face or being rejected if they express their opinions or feelings. So they tend not to bother trying to explain themselves or listen to others' points of view.
2. Lack of clarity in thinking - people have different ways of looking at situations through their own values and beliefs which can affect how they communicate.
3. Self-centeredness - people are usually only concerned with themselves and what matters to them; they are self-centered. This means that they think only about what they want and don't care about anyone else's views or needs.
4. Defensiveness - when people feel attacked or misunderstood they go into defense mode, which includes saying things without thinking and avoiding dealing with the root cause of the problem.
5. Emotional stability - people who are unstable emotionally cannot be trusted to communicate clearly because they may say one thing while meaning something completely different.
Emotional boundaries function similarly. They are the ground rules, and they are frequently hidden or unsaid. Our emotional borders are formed by a mixture of our culture, religion or belief system, community, and upbringing.
Our emotional boundaries determine what we will not accept from others. We may have certain behaviors or attitudes that cause us pain and are therefore unacceptable to us. These are the boundaries we have established for ourselves.
For example, if someone has done you harm physically or emotionally in the past, it's likely that you won't give them your physical presence or trust them with your emotions. Their access to you would be denied because there is too great a risk that they will repeat this behavior.
Your boundaries help you protect yourself from people who might do you harm. They also help you avoid situations that might cause you pain. For example, if someone makes you feel small or inadequate, you would want to avoid being around them so that you don't get emotionally drained.
Setting emotional boundaries isn't always easy. It requires self-awareness and courage. But without them, life would be much less safe and secure.