People become busybodies for two reasons: control (or lack thereof) and emotional eating. Emotional eaters are typically control freaks because they feel out of control themselves. Going a little further, the ego must be in charge, and the ego must always be correct. If someone else is making decisions about their life, then they cannot be feeling bad about themselves, so they must be wrong sometimes. This is how the busybody becomes born.
The busybody also eats to fill an emotional void. Whether it be loneliness, boredom, or depression, the emotional eater uses food to try and solve their problems.
Food becomes more than fuel; it becomes an ally that fights our battles for us. The more we use it this way, the more we will depend on it. Then one day we wake up and find ourselves in a very sad state. We have spent all our time eating instead of living and now that it is too late we are filled with regret.
At this point the busybody has done enough damage. It is time to stop being one yourself by reading these 10 ways to stop being a busybody.
Some individuals believe that being busy is the only way to attain success. Other individuals feel uneasy when they aren't busy, since it feels like a type of failure when we don't have our calendars full up, causing negative emotions like worry and despair, according to Ms. Bloch. Being busy helps us avoid feeling these negative emotions.
There are two ways in which staying busy can help us succeed: by preventing us from thinking about how failed we are and by giving us the illusion that we are more important than we actually are. Failure comes with the risk of losing what we've worked for, so we need to avoid it as much as possible. The more time we spend working on projects, the more likely it is that at least some of them will be successful, so we should use this fact to our advantage by spending as much time as possible working on multiple activities at once.
Being busy also gives us an excuse not to think about our failures or lose hope for the future, since there's always another project to work on. We shouldn't let this habit control our lives though, since it will only cause us additional stress without improving our situation.
Finally, staying busy allows us to feel like we are important enough for others to want to rely on us even when we can't give them our full attention.
Busybody This is the type of person you want to hit in the face for being so irritating. They have no life and far too much free time. A person who continually gossips, speaks negatively about others, and spreads stories about them in order to create issues and strife. In other words, they are trouble.
Their biggest problem is that they think the world revolves around them. If someone else's day is going badly, then even though they have no business being involved, they will offer their opinions anyway. The busybody wants everyone to live according to how they feel about something, whether it be another person's appearance, behavior, or anything else that comes up.
They are usually very self-centered and believe that everyone should live by their standards. Even if those standards aren't realistic or fair, the busybody will push them regardless because they can't stand anyone else getting attention from others while they're not being given their share.
The busybody tends to attract negative people who will tell them everything they don't want to know about themselves. They may also be friends with gossipers who will drag them down with them into the sewer when they could be having a good time.
People avoid busybodies because they want to have a happy and successful life, but that isn't possible if there's a negative person in your circle.
According to the authors, busyness combined with time limits can contribute to stress and anxiety. So, if you have a lot to do but not a lot of time to do it in, it might lead to hasty actions that are potentially unhealthy, such as eating quick but less nutritious meals and engaging in less physical exercise.
They also suggest that because people who are busy tend to spend less time thinking about their diet and more time thinking about their work, they may come to regard food as something necessary for survival rather than as an important part of life.
Finally, the authors say that because people who are busy tend to rely on others to take care of them, they may also turn to food as a source of comfort when they need it most.
So, whether you're asking yourself or someone else why you eat the way you do, consider how your daily schedule affects what and how much you eat.