Older study on overcommunication reveals that, while many individuals see talkativeness as a desirable attribute, some people push communication too far. The researchers list a few crucial indications of this habit, which they call obsessive talking or "talkaholism": I talk a lot in most circumstances. Frequently more than everyone else. I feel the need to always say something even if nobody asks me anything.
Some studies suggest that older adults may talk more than younger ones for two main reasons: they have more things to say and they want to connect with others. However, other research indicates that age is just a factor of life experience and that no one talks more or less as they get older.
In any case, older adults who talk a lot without purpose or who do so excessively early in relationships are likely being narcissistic or entitled. Such people should be asked to control their behavior if they want others to listen to them.
Narcissists talk more because they think there's nothing wrong with it. They believe that they deserve attention and will do whatever it takes to get it. This isn't limited to older adults but rather applies to anyone who feels important enough to speak incessantly.
Entitled people talk more because they expect others to do everything for them. If they don't get their way, they become angry or upset.
People with Asperger's syndrome are more prone to be overcommunicators. People who are nervous and ramble in order to appease the person they are speaking to. Narcissists believe that what they have to say is both significant and interesting. They like to talk about themselves and their ideas, feelings, and experiences. Often people with this disorder can't stop talking once they start.
Those with Asperger's usually try to listen carefully and respond appropriately to what others are saying. However, due to problems processing information accurately and efficiently, they may come across as not listening when actually they are just trying to process what has been said. This can lead to many misunderstandings between people who use words incorrectly or don't understand each other's tone of voice.
For example, if you tell a narcissist that you don't want to hear anything more about him/herself, they will most likely take this as me wanting to hear only good things about myself. Although this was not your intention, to them this seems like an attack on them as a person. Overtime these misunderstandings can lead to a lack of trust between two people who should be able to communicate.
People with Asperger's often have jobs that require them to speak in front of groups or interact with customers.
Important points Some individuals talk a lot because they are egocentric, but others are overwhelmed by their own emotions and use speech to drive them away. To quiet a chatterbox, figure out what they're trying to say and rephrase it in your own terms. If that doesn't work, change the subject or end the conversation.
There are two types of speakers: those who talk a lot and those who don't. The first type includes people who have nothing important to say and simply want to fill up time by talking about anything and everything. The second type consists of individuals who are so occupied with themselves that they fail to see that other people also need some time to breathe and live. These people talk too much even when there is no one around to listen to them.
Those who talk a lot can be men or women. Young or old, they all have something important to say but only few have the courage to express themselves.
The reason why people talk a lot may be because they are: anxious, angry, excited, happy, or sad. Sometimes we talk too much because we want to make ourselves clear or get someone's attention. We might also talk too much because we feel the need to explain ourselves or be understood. At other times, we speak too much because we are afraid that if we didn't, people would think we're stupid or ignore us.
Some people speak rapidly because they are uncomfortable or anxious; they raise their rate to get their conversation "over with," but at the price of clarity and diction, resulting in mumbled or confused speech. This phenomena may apply to both introverts and extroverts.
Others speak quickly because they have an abundance of ideas and want to give the audience as much information as possible; they use short sentences and jump from topic to topic, never really focusing on one thing for very long. Again, this applies to both introverts and extroverts.
Yet others speak quickly to avoid seeming like they are trying too hard or wanting too much attention. They might not even be aware of it themselves, since this is a habit that has been built over time. Finally, some people talk more than others because they feel more comfortable expressing themselves verbally rather than in writing, which often results in longer speeches from those who talk more.
In any case, talking too much is a common problem for everyone, no matter what their personality type is. The only difference is how much time you spend feeling guilty about it.
If you want to stop yourself from talking, focus on your listener instead of continuing to talk.