You could believe that lovely people don't get angry; that anger is unpleasant; or that I'm above being furious. Some people may go to extraordinary lengths to numb their anger, frequently by engaging in self-destructive and dangerous conduct, but suppressing it will not make it go away. Anger can be useful - it's a sign that something is wrong or needs fixing - so why would anyone want to suppress it?
People get angry for many different reasons. Sometimes they are angry for no apparent reason at all. Other times they are mad because someone has offended them, hurt them emotionally, or taken something from them. Still other people feel anger because it's the right thing to do. For example, parents who have lost their children in accidents have been known to say that they felt obligated to be angry about what had happened to their children; it was the only way to cope with the pain of losing them.
Sometimes people get angry at others deliberately as a way to show their love. They may do this by throwing kisses, giving hugs, or taking shots of alcohol or drugs. Having love affairs also involves feeling angry at one's partner but using this emotion to create desire. Love makes things easier for both parties involved.
There are several types of people who get angry often: those who fear anger; those who dislike themselves when they're angry; and those who suffer from depression.
Anger is virtually always justifiable in the minds of angry individuals. Others, however, are not always in agreement. The societal evaluation of anger has real-world repercussions for the individual who is furious. What's more, others can tell by looking at you whether or not your anger is justified.
The most common reason why people believe their anger is justified is because they think it is someone else's fault. While it is not acceptable to blame other people for your problems, there is no value placed on being responsible for your own happiness. If you have failed to achieve something you want, you cannot simply expect another person to give it to you. You have to go get it.
People also believe their anger is justified if they feel like they have gotten the short end of the stick. They may feel like they have worked hard, but haven't been given what they deserve. Or perhaps they have been denied access to something they need or want.
Finally, people believe their anger is justified if they feel like they can't take it anymore. They may be yelling and screaming, but are unable to physically move away from their situation. For example, a person might be in a fight with their partner and don't know how to end it without hurting one or both of them.
Remember that rage is frequently an indication that the other person has not learnt to respond to frightening events in a healthy, forceful manner. According to research, when people remind themselves that they are not to blame for another person's anger, they are less likely to be offended by it. Also, remembering that others' emotions are just like their own helps them understand others better.
People get angry at other people because it is easy to do. It feels good to lash out at someone who has hurt you, even if that person ends up not being able to retaliate or not being punished for the offense. Anger is a natural human response to pain, fear, and disappointment. However, unchecked, this feeling may turn into hatred that can cause serious harm to relationships.
Anger is part of many people's lives. Some are never really able to control it while others try very hard not to let it affect their daily interactions with others. The reason people get angry at others is because that anger has either been brought forth prematurely or not dealt with properly after it is felt. In some cases, people get angry because they are afraid not to be seen as strong enough or important enough to handle what has made them feel fearful or insignificant.
Often times, we get angry because we are trying to cover up our fears.
However, most individuals find it difficult to be honest about their sentiments of rage since anger has such a terrible image. Many individuals find it difficult to confess to being furious, and it's natural to worry that if others witness our rage, they will label us as "angry people." We fear that this will reflect on our character, causing us embarrassment or punishment.
The first thing you need to understand is that anger is not your enemy. Anger is a natural human feeling that helps us deal with reality. Without anger, there would be no need for reason or logic; only feelings. It is when these feelings become hurtful that we have a problem.
When someone attacks your dignity by insulting you or making fun of you, it hurts. When someone invades your privacy by exposing what you feel are private matters, it hurts. When someone neglects their duty by failing to protect you from harm, it hurts. All of these things are examples of emotional violence. They cause pain and suffering, and no one should have to go through such experiences regularly.
If you do not express your anger, it will consume you. Research shows that individuals who suffer in silence often develop physical symptoms like headaches, stomach problems, and insomnia. These are all signs that something is wrong inside you. If you keep these feelings bottled up, they will eventually come out in some other form - perhaps in the form of violent behavior.